queJimenez...a pieced and quilted writing life

Cultivating

 

I believe something magical happens when the right words/songs become imprinted in your mind. For the past few weeks, off and on, I have had Esperanza Spaulding & Algebra Blessett's "Black Gold" playing in the background of my mind. My own private cheering squad, they are ready to sing me through any trying moment.

Wednesday I had another head down, tears between my knees moment as I was getting ready for class. These moments, they keep coming. Thankfully, they are mild, mostly morose, and somewhat harmless. This time I was talking with E about life choices, school choices, etc. And again, I began doubting myself and my decisions. Ever patient, E let me talk through the doubts and eventually I asked him, "Why did I start this journey again?" He didn't need to tell me, but he reminded me of my thirst for knowledge and learning. He reminded me that it was a life goal.

"No." I told him.

That's all true, but I really started this journey for two reasons, I wanted an MFA to advanced my writing craft and for Granma. That's it.

Yesterday, I went to Lowes to buy some fruit trees for our garden. Oh the years I have been waiting to make this move and expand our garden. You see, fruit trees are fairly expensive, and they also require space and dedication/knowledge. Neither money, space, or knowledge we had for them. Until now. Not much, but enough.

While I was there I saw the most beautiful (late)-middle aged woman shopping for her garden. She reminded me of Granma. Her clay brown skin glistened in the sun. Her dress, a blue tank muu-muu, was starched and crisp. She looked like she had poured so much love into herself for this trip. I hadn't even ate a real meal yet (and it was after 1pm), let alone taken the time to oil my skin and press my clothes.

I loved on her for awhile. I watched her, wondered her name, and wondered what was growing in her garden. I wondered if her laugh would sound like Granma's or it she enjoyed entertaining like Granma did. She was so poised and content with life.

Watching her, in my mind, I began to quote Alice Walker,

"I went in search of the secret of what has fed that muzzled and often mutilated, but vibrant, creative spirit that the black woman has inherited, and that pops out in wild and unlikely places to this day."

"...an artist who left her mark in the only materials she could afford, and in the only medium her position in society allowed her to use."

"And so our mothers and grandmothers have, more often than not anonymously, handed on the creative spark, the seed of the flower they themselves never hoped to see: or like a sealed letter they could not plainly read."

-In Search of Our Mothers' Gardens

This morning, as I forced myself to make time for my own "wild and unlikely" pursuits, I realized why I have had so many head between the knees moments, crying.

Let me quote Walker again,

"For these grandmothers and mothers of ours were not Saints, but Artists; driven to a numb and bleeding madness by the springs of creativity in them for which there was no release. They were Creators, who lived lives of spiritual waste, because they were so rich in spirituality--which is the basis of Art--that the strain of enduring their unused and unwanted talent drove them insane."

-In Search of Our Mothers' Gardens

I don't think I could express my own feelings and reactions to life better. And in understanding this, I have come to realize my fear is based on this idea that I will never move into my own spirituality, fully.

So I journaled about it. I even managed to catch a poem hovering for only the slightest of seconds. It, the poem, needs some attention, but the essence is there.

I dream of belonging to the sisterhood of Black women writers who preserve and honor our legacy. Those women who stand amongst us, watch us, and write about us as she lives alongside us. Those women who write with the voice and echo of the sisterhood. Those women, passed on, who Walker reminds us of that cried out for creativity while molding biscuits, carrying babies, plaiting hair.

I know I am one of them.

And with these dreams comes responsibility. Knowledge and due understanding. And so I must read first. I must read before I write. I must study, learn their stories and voices, so that my echo will resound.

In my heart they call me "little sister" and reassure me that they are waiting for me. Waiting for my "true leaves" to emerge. Cultivate and nurture, they whisper.

In gardening, when we sow seeds there is a set of leaves that emerge first. They are the plant's first leaves, the seed leaves, and they are not what we call the plant's "true leaves." These first leaves are essentially present in the seed as part of the plant's embryo. They are the plant's stored food, waiting for the true leaves to take over food production. They are biologically created to be present, and to herald the young plant's life in and ensure food, life. But the true leaves, these are the leaves that must be cultivated and nurtured for growth and for the health and survival of the plant.

They are both necessary.

 

Yesterday, while watering my garden, an idea occurred to me--plant a garden in your mind.

Paz...Ki

 

I want to be a poetry & prose scientist when I grow up.

 

Three new art journals waiting for words and art.

 

I like to think my body has brought my lack of balance in my life to my attention. I don't "feel" the same as I did a year or so ago. My energy feels stagnant, my body feels more sensitive, and most days I feel like I am either in the process, or just got finished running myself into the ground.

With school, I've managed to excise all the creativity out of my life, of course, unintentionally, but nevertheless my creativity has been "ghost." The only creativity I've displayed regularly is the topics I choose to write my papers on. 

But, I am listening...and this past week I spent a delicious nine or ten days focusing on getting my groove back. I'd like to say getting my creative groove back, but the truth is...I just spent the time doing the things I needed to do spiritually.

I planted my garden. I cooked some great meals. I cleaned up trouble zones in my home. I cleaned up my backyard. I slept in. I did very little checking of email. I took pictures. I braided the little lady's hair. I read a little poetry. And! I made three (!) art journals...and got the signatures ready for another meaty, painterly one.

More importantly, I resisted the urge to get started early in my upcoming summer classes, and I also didn't touch any of my CLEP study guides (not smart).

But, my spirit needed it.

 

I decided to piece the covers...but very lightly quilted them without batting. I wanted flat covers with a "quilted or pieced" look.

 

I'm very excited about this new journey/adventure into art journaling that I'm sorta/kinda starting. The first two books I made, sneak peek pictures here, I really hate. The process of creating them was quite zen as I holed up in the studio and worked for hours...literally until E forced me to stop, rest, and eat. I didn't realize I hadn't changed positions much until I succumbed to his pressure and couldn't stand up straight without my back complaining. Apparently, I have really bad posture while art-making. 

The process was freeing, but a day later I felt like I had an "art hangover" looking at the books. A "what happens in the studio, stays in the studio" moment. I laughed to myself, "How could I create something so ugly, when I was feeling so good while creating it?"

I blame it on trying to artfully be something I'm not. I had seen so many different art journals and had been so inspired that I must have channeled it all...ALL...into the mess I created. That's okay, I laugh today. It's all a part of the journey of (re)connecting with my own voice.

 

I love the way the spines looks.

 

In the end, incredibly inspired by the amazing Pam Garrison (seriously, I have an art crush), I discovered Remains of the Day journals, paid for the class, and made myself some lovely journals. When I found ROTD journals it was like finding an answer to a riddle on a fortune cookie...I have so many keepsake paperbilia and things that I have collected, still collect, and don't know what to do with. I ended up loving the process of collecting, organizing, and making these little books (although it was an incredibly looooong process for me). The finish product is even better. 

 

The insides of the third journal.

 

I wanted to add a little "Ki" to my books and make them more my own so I incorporated a few fabric signatures for me to stitch on. Some of them are cross-stitch fabrics, but most of them are PFD pieces of cotton I had gotten ready for painting long ago. 

I finished the books a good five days or so ago, but I haven't used them yet. Shame on me. I'm fighting the "I don't want to mess these pretty things up" jitters. I need to just dig in. 

I think the other issue is that I still haven't figured out exactly how or what I will art journal about. I want to use them as a tool to explore poetry and prose ideas or poem and story starts, but I also want to doodle/paint/draw. Not to mention I also want to keep a regular and gratitude diary. 

With all that in mind, I tried to incorporate pages/signatures that would allow space to do all of those things...so we'll see. I know that all of those things can fit together, it's just a matter of putting it down--my way.

I think in the end, once again, I am reminded of how much I want to be in a creative writing program. I want time to explore and create with words and art. 

And again, I am conflicted because I love learning the backdrop/background or science of literature. I guess that is it. Studying literature/English when you want to be a writer is like studying the science behind that which you desire to create.

My little guy loves food. Loves food. In some ways I think he wants to be a chef, but if you ask him what he wants to be when he grows up he'll tell you "a food scientist." He wants to create flavors for Doritos chips and things of that nature...

Me? I'm changing my dreams..."I want to be poetry/prose scientist" when I grow up. 

There. That feels incredibly authentic.

♥ Ki

This morning.

Peeks into my first art journal.

I keep crying tears that won't fall. Instead they ache my eyeballs and moisten my lids. I also keep rubbing my belly in a clock-wise, small, circular motion centered on my navel because my tummy, arguably the most sensitive piece of me, is acting up. 

I have irritable viscera and eyes that refuse to cry when things get deep, personal, difficult and real.

It is like I'm hardened and overly sensitive at the same time. Fitting, I'm the overthinker, worry-wort, fantastical-thinker of my family brood.

I'm three days into my multicultural literature class, the class that I have waited fifteen months to take, and I can't read introductory material without feeling like my tear ducts are stopped up. 

Everything is telling me, pushing me, encouraging me, calling me to write...creatively. Everything.

(Right now the tears are falling.)

Everything.

Everything.

Everything.

But something keeps telling me now is not the time. Hold off. You still have literature to learn. You still have academic papers to write. 

I love writing those kinds of paper. Academia.

But now, with fatty tears streaming down my cheeks I crave writing my heart. I imagine if I had the means and the knowledge to tattoo words down my arms I would.

What ever would I write, doesn't matter. I would make it up on the fly...a quilt of words, cursing my viscera for being sensitive and reflective, praising my eyes for finally letting the tears fall, thanking my hands for being warm and rubbing out the tears in my belly before painting my arms with the words.

This is me. This is what I do all day, everyday. Write words in me that I want to live.

When I let them out, I talk too much and I'm sure the receiver of those talks often ponders if they should continue friendship with me or if they are family...continue calling me.

I don't care. 

If you eat garlic it gets into your pores and leaks out in your sweat, urine, breath. I used to take garlic cloves, chop them into quarters and swallow them for immunity. My tummy was stronger then. I hadn't birthed kids or been awakened to me yet. For a day or two I would smell garlic all over me and speak garlickly words.

These days words ooze out of me, but I rarely record them. I give them away in conversation, in class, in local-long-distance phone calls to my mother, brother, auntie, to text messages and iPhone to iPhone speaker calls to E while he balances failing school district budgets, to the kids while they still want to hear my life lessons, to class mates who probably wish I'd shut up...to everyone but the paper.

I talk everything but the prose and poetry I should be talk/writing on screen. 

Truth to tell, it sucks and is wonderful all wrapped up in one. I am grateful and sad. Thankful and frustrated. I understand and am confused.

Family lore is that I didn't start talking till I was four, maybe five years old. No words. Granma would tell me often that she thought I was a "mute." (That's the old black way of saying deaf.) Auntie tells me I didn't say a sound. Nothing. I don't care that I talk so much, these days. I am quite fine with the over-talkative woman I've become, because I know one day I will just write.

Self-illustration. I think I had picked herbs earlier that week, and it was raining outside. Not sure.

I will be four again and go back into my shell, but with the ability to express what I observe. I sort of remember those days. I remember always watching. Always. Watching. Always trying to make sense and sort out life around me. 

E would tell you not much has changed. I'd agree.

♥ Ki

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I spent a great portion of last night editing pictures to share. I'm excited to share with you wonderful, wonderful, women who so kindly shared with me yesterday that you are still here...reading my words. I have class this evening and a few assignments to turn in and end of school year schoolwork to turn in to the kids teacher. Oh, and some very needy squash plants that need an hour's worth of time watering every day. I hope to upload and post them tonight or tomorrow morning. They are of the new art journals I've made...and an update of my garden.

Until then, here is a sneak peak into the first art journal that I made. The outside cover is horrendous. I hate it. The second that I made is equally ugly. But this first spread, I love. It is honest and true. It is real. The next set of books that I made, which I spent almost the entirety of last week making are a lot better. They have not been written in yet. This post should have been written in there...but I wanted to share my heart here first.

Thank you for your continued friendship and love. I love you all back. ♥

Just getting something down.

This is me painting random words on the blank white page of my blog.

I've found that not blogging for a while creates a void that becomes a great white space of emptiness that is at once overwhelming and daunting to speak onto.

Where do I start? I've been living so much.

Am I even talking to anyone besides myself? I'm too irregular to create a "following."

How do I begin again? Is there a again, does the breaks really matter in the grand scheme of things?

Does blogging only work with regular, spaced entries? Only if you set rules.

I have to be honest. My life is too busy and crammed with "just get today's work done" for me to be the blogger I once was, or the blogger I imagine I could be. Instead, I'm accepting that I am just this woman here that can sometimes, and can't others.

The great thing is that in between these long breaks I am living.

I read something this morning by Tayari Jones that made my eyes sting with tears that were not strong enough to fall:

"While I do applaud those writers who have used their imagination to render in fiction the lost voices of generations past, I believe that African-American writers must also embrace contemporary narratives...we must not become so obsessed with filling the pages left blank by an incomplete historical record, that we leave no record of our own meaningful lives. I do not like to imagine my own granddaughter forced to rely on library archives to reconstruct my life because I exhausted my resources and talent pondering the past. At some point, serious writers must commint ourselves as fervently to transforming our own experiences into art."

Click here to read for yourself.

I have been struggling with this very issue the past few months. To the point of exhaustion, I have questioned myself and tried to find where I fit between writing about the past or my own experience. Tayari's words were like validation, permission, and justification all rolled into one. I was so paralyzed with seeing my own reflection in the advice that I could not read much further and instantly tried to find her to say thank you. I found her blog, but was unable to leave a comment of gratitude. I'm tempted to rejoin twitter, just to tell her thank you.

I am scared.

I feel too old to make mistakes and misjudgements and dare I say, not know what it is I am doing. I turned 35 this Feb. and let it pass by with no recognition. Not that I wasn't happy or celebrating my day, but more so because I feel I have so many unanswered question about the 35 years of living I have done. 

So much has happened. So much I want to say. So much I want to express and paint about. There was just not enough space here, or in my heart to dive into what 35 years of living has meant to me.

Anyway, so here I am. I have much more to say, share, etc. Lots of pictures on my CF card waiting to be processed and uploaded. I need time, school is in full swing for me, the kids, and E.

Before I end, and begin later today or tomorrow...I must set some rules. These are for me. 

1. Never a need to "catch-up," always begin where you are.

2. Write because you need to, not because you have to...because you don't.

3. Write to yourself, because you are truest when looking in the mirror, talking to yourself. After all, this is your life.

4. You don't need pretty pictures in every post.

5. Two, three post in one day? Why not? Do you. Who cares about optimizing, etc., this is your record, your words, your life.

6. Ignore the word count. You can write as much as you like and feel is necessary to fully and adequately express yourself. You will read it, and that's all that matters.

7. You can be fully and uniquely you...I happen to like Kiandra...so don't change her.

8. It's okay to shut the world out and talk to yourself.

9. Smile, laugh, cry through your words.

Okay...now that I got that out, I'm happy and ready to move forward.

♥ Ki

Growth Untamed.

Neglected artichoke in my garden.

I've come to understand that growth untamed and unmanaged can be as much of a set back as stagnation. I know because I seem to be growing wildly in some directions, but becoming stagnant, stale in others.

At first I told myself it was okay, a normal part of evolving. But, I've noticed that my evolution has included cutting and excising other parts of me. Picture me randomly cutting locs for no other reason than to allow space and room for other locs to sprout and fan out from my head. Doesn't make sense, but that seems to be what I've done in my life.

me.

Academic papers have replaced blogging.

Researching has replaced gardening.

"Dressing up" for class has replaced painting, quilting.

Emailing classmates has replaced Facebook updates.

Dreaming about graduation has replaced dreaming about paintings, quilts.

Sitting for hours writing about literature has replaced sitting for hours painting about life.

Packing E's lunch & making his breakfast before Saturday morning class has replaced baking on a whim.

I have felt so many different things the past four months, from excitement to confusion...focused to burnt out...grateful to morose...inspired about the new me to isolated from the old me.

When I feel down, burnt out, and isolated from all that I used to be, I quickly chastise myself. I reel through my ever-growing list of "I'm grateful for..." and rather harshly tell myself to "quit complaining."

I'm happy, I'm learning, I'm growing, I'm so much further [intellectually] than I was a year ago. I'm humbled by what I've learned and what I've shown myself I can do--academically.

But that there is it. I have grown academically, but creatively I have stood still. I don't like that. It makes me sad. It makes me cry on the way to school as I listen to moody music, look forward to class, miss home, and try to talk through it with E all at the same time. (Sometimes, while tutoring or on the way home I've had what E calls panic attacks. Their origins? I don't know.)

I ask him over and over and over and over...if I'm dying creatively. Is the artist in me dying so the scholar can live?

When class is done and I'm filled/sustained by all the learning done I bargain and sale the artist in favor for the high learning induces in me. If only you all could see how much I come alive in class. How much I have to say. How much I thrive. How much I learn. I am the nerd of the class. I am that girl who keeps talking. I am that person who gets up in front of the class energized, ready, willing, and too able to talk on and on. I am always prepared, overly so. I am always so damn happy to be there.

And then there is home.

What's left of my neglected herb garden, chives, lavender, everything, and marjoram.

I stare out my window, between writing & researching, at my garden. The birds, bees, grasshoppers tease me...call to me...land on my window, begging me to come and grow--in the garden. I walk into my studio ransacked for crafting supplies and overrun by the kids and tears rim my eyes. Where is the girl who lived in this hot, sunny, lilac room? The girl who painted one day, quilted the next, all while baking and gardening and homeschooling? Where has she flown?

Last week I was sick and the boy was sick and I begun to have panic attacks when E told me he could not come home early and help take care of us. He could bring home tea and herbs, but that was it. I literally couldn't breath. My throat was raw, closing up on me, and my head was swiming with all the school assignments I needed to complete and how little time I had to be sick. It was sunny, which only reminded me that I was 2 months late in planting my garden and getting sick will push that back another week, or two. 

I could not breathe except for in the shower, in the garden, or while crying on E's shoulder. I went from the shower to crying on E's shoulder, to the garden so many different times. It was a rush of me moving from one space to another in a hurry to find my breath and peace.

It was terrrifying, humbling, and saddening.

When E finally left for work, we were in the garden and I didn't look up from digging out weeds from my vegetable bed. I didn't look up because I was praying and afraid that if I saw him leave, or stopped praying I wouldn't be able to breath again. When I finally looked up the kids were next to me, trying to help me dig. The boy was just as sick, but yet there he was...digging in the garden with his unhinged mother. The love and tenderness in their eyes when they asked me why I was crying, the quiet love and understanding they gave me as we three digged--Gave me strength.

While I cried into the soil and prayed I began to realize that my life is without balance. I then begun to beg God to show me a way out. A way to find a happy medium so I wouldn't feel so dead and alive at once. 

For whatever reason I started to notice the wild runners of mint sprinkled through our failing lawn. Me and the kids started to dig them up and replant them in discarded planters. I can't tell you the comfort that gave me...finding homes for herbs growing in the wrong place. 

Eventually I decided, or at least tried, to leave the yuckiness out there for nature/God to work out. Eventually the cold progressed from my throat and within a few days I was well enough to catch up on homework (though I had to miss class, which I cried about).

Well, in the past week or so I have kept my heart open to whatever would come to me. One answer came: art journaling.

I have been struggling to find a way to combine writing and art, and ironically never made the connection. Though I had planned on signing up for a local, bookbinding class, and in the past I have created some sort of "art journal." 

Yesterday, while searching for transcipts and doing graduation prep stuff I stumbled upon the first things I ever drew back in the 10th grade. Amongst it was pages and pages of journaling/writing/poems on scattered and random pieces of paper. I found a few of my prized essays from high school and finally, with my adult eyes realized why they told me I was a good writer. I was.

A collection of tools waiting for me to begin creating again.

I'm starting though I don't know what or how or where to begin. I don't know how I can add something creative and consistent to my life. I also don't know how I can continue to breathe if I don't. I'm learning that still, 35 years into life, I have not truly defined and found myself. That is such a comforting thing to realize. Freeing.

God only knows what lies ahead, but amongst these last few months leading towards graduation...I hope that I'll find some balance, peace, and my creative breath again.

I wonder if any of you have ever dealt with panic attacks or stress brought on by inbalance in life? Share with me.

Ki

 

Heart 2 God

We         

           should

    always      

   honor  

    our          

             dreams.

      -Ki

 

Go dream wildly today and

share it with 

every living soul

you 

encounter.

Go ahead.

I dare you to make them

come true.

 

This week in literature reading...this week in moving past fear.

Have you ever read Homer's The Iliad--in one day? I did that Saturday, and in some literary sense I know I am the better for it. Not the one day, but the reading.

I am reading "classics" this week, also last week, and probably next week. And at the same time I'm reading Moll Flanders, by Daniel DeFoe, perhaps more famous for Robinson Crusoe, which I have never read, nor heard of till the first week of this year (along with Moll).

As I was reading Plato, Aristotle, Horace, Longinus, Wollstonecraft last week I fancied up a long post in my mind about the importance of reading the classics. Necessary reading for writers was essentially my thesis, my point. But then I started hating it. And then I got to class, after I had read all obscene amount of pages, and learned from my peers, my contemporaries, that they gave up and didn't read it all. (The horror!!) Then we had an hour long talk about each reading and me, the girl who LOVES to talk and discuss, me, started to get bored, then annoyed, and finally indignant that I was getting out of class at 10pm. I might even dare to say that me, yes me, the girl who LOVES to speak up in class (and has been reprimanded for it--unjustly--my classmates were being stale and not talking) was pissed. I also need to add that I think I might have possibly, if E is right in all his manly wisdom, had a small, teeny-tiny panic attack in class. An hour before she let us out--at 10!!

10 pm does not sit well with me and my student colleagues.

All that dampened my spirits for talking about the classics, because at that point, in a class where I and a grad student (who is taking the graduate equivalent of my undergraduate class) spoke most of the time (along with the professor--whom despite keeping us an hour past the decent hour of learning--I like) and I ended up having nothing else to say about the classics.

And then today I read Plato, The Apology of Socrates. (For another class.)

I could string together a necklace of word pearls of wisdom, knotting the red silk after phrase and phrase and phrase, place a golden clasp at the end of them all, and wear those *few* phrases around my writing neck forever.

Picture me sitting with legs crossed, blanket around my cold shoulders, fan whirling motes at a corner wall in the background, sunlight shining in on me and my colorful bed...writing

(Excuse my exaggeration; I have read over 200 pages in the past 36 hours. That doesn't include the 150-200 pages I read the days before the weekend.)

I really enjoyed reading Plato's defense of Socrates. There were moments when I stopped, underlined, starred, and then said, "Ohh, that's where that comes from."

If you've read Hamlet (for the first time--after high school or whenever most people read it) you'll know what I'm talking about--those moments when you realize where certain sayings, quotes, thoughts come from. Well that was my experience with Plato's Apology--not with On poetics, which I read (and hated) last week.

Here are the pearls I gathered for my writing necklace:

"So I left him, saying to myself, as I went away: Well, although I do not suppose that either of us knows anything really beautiful and good, I am better off than he is,--for he knows nothing, and thinks that he knows; I neither know nor think that I know."

"I found that the men most in repute were all but the most foolish; and that the others less esteemed were really wiser and better."

"Then I knew that not by wisdom do poets write poetry, but by a sort of genius and inspiration; they are like diviners or soothsayers who also say many fine things, but do not understand the meaning of them."

"A man who is good for anything ought not to calculate the chance of living or dying; he ought only to consider whether in doing anything he is doing right or wrong--acting the part of a good man or of a bad."

And here is where it really got good, and I started thinking of you--my lovely blog:

"I will never fear or avoid a possible good rather than a certain evil."

"You, my friend,--a citizen of the great and mighty and wise city of Athens,--are you not ashamed of heaping up the greatest amount of money and honor and reputation, and caring so little about wisdom and truth and the greatest improvement of the soul, which you never regard or heed at all?"

"For I do nothing but go about persuading you all, old and young alike, not to take thought for your persons or your properties, but first and chiefly to care about the greatest improvement of the soul."

"...no evil can happen to a good man, either in life or after death."

 Maybe it's just me, but these "quotes" moved me. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has heard that "the man who knows anything knows he knows nothing at all." I've always loved that saying. 

But take a look at some of the other quotes...the one on poetry, the one about doing right, the one about fear. Are these not pearls of wisdom, great guidance for those of us who like to think, ponder, wonder about things like inner soul, life & death, good vs. evil?

I've talked about my decision to pursue an MFA in creative writing so much, and though I stand firm in my decision, I have to be honest--I'm scared. Scared of rejection, failure, debt. Is my voice developed enough? Do I know enough? How do I compare with other writers? Will I go into debt for a useless degree? How will it change my life? Will I get accepted--anywhere?

I really can go on, but I rather not. Plato (& Socrates) tells me that it is not good to fear a possible good. And is not that graduate degree a possible good?

For sure it is a certain evil to deny myself that which I love, writing, telling stories. What would be more awful than denying yourself what you love for fear? Living your life with that fear and knowing it got the best of you.

A year ago me and E were hemming & hawing over our decision to go back to school. Him to pursue his MBA and me to finally finish my bachelors. It was such a monumental, engrossing decision. There were spreadsheets, and visits, and informational meetings, and price comparisons, and FAFSA's. I was scared. E just informed me he was not. (But he's never scared about anything.) And look at us, a year later, in the swing of it and all the better for it. I have maintained a 4.0 and he has a 3.8 or 3.9. We are doing it and doing it well. A notch on my confidence belt.

I'm hoping my shared quotes will mean something to one of you. They pushed me a little further past my fear and opened a world of understanding about Socrates for me. I must admit that after reading On Poetics last week, I didn't hold Socrates in high esteem; I didn't care for the way he bashed poets, artist, carpenters. 

Moving past fear feels delicious. Even though somewhere up under my skin, perhaps under my arms or legs, it swims and festers trying to work its way to my brain, heart. But I fight the good fight. I tell myself that I will and can do that which now seems so far and impossible. 

Tell yourself the same thing.

Ki

San bernardino dreams: What you know about writing?

Last night I woke up at around 1:30 am as E was going to sleep. I felt under the pillows for my big, black, nerdy glasses and was instantly annoyed when he reached on his side of the bed for them. You have to understand I prefer to sleep with my glasses on; in fact, I think E pulled them off my face thinking he was doing me a favor, which he does a couple nights out the week. Usually he puts them on my nightstand.

Seeing is everything for me. I see to understand. When I write, I see the words as colors, shapes, or abstract things that need to be arranged like 2D, imaginary, poetry/prose paintings. I love my mind's eye. I should have that printed on a t-shirt. (Don't steal it--karma is real.) When I think ahead about times and months down the line, I see it. It's like a weird calender/life/picture/vision/photograph amalgamation of the past and what I imagine that future month will be. And it is so translucent, so veiled--like gossomer. If I allow myself to linger and ponder it to much--poof! it's gone. Those are my gossomer moments. I've had them since I can remember and have learned to let them float in the space they crave. I know that all sounds crazy, but hey, I'm giving you a peak into a creative mind. Talk to God about it, it's the way I was made.

But I'm going off on a tangent here; I promise I'll get back to the seeing/glassess/sleeping thing.

So I woke up, E hid my glasses, I got them back from him, he started snooring, I kicked him to signal him to turn over, he grumbled then obliged me, and then I started thinking.

I wanted to write a letter to God. I got all Cellie on myself and wanted to grab my cobalt mbp and "Dear God" it. I was writing the words in my brain over and over again. I was stuck on the Dear-God-Comma part. Because after the comma my brain would start writing/telling God all I wanted this year, and how I was being good and focused, and how I thought I was a good person, etc. It started sounding very christmas list to santa to me so I did not pick up my cobalt writer. Nope. You see I had to nudge E again, which always annoy me because he tells me he's just breathing. All lies. And then I wanted to wake him up because I couldn't stop writing my Cellie letter and I thought, "If I wake E up, make him sit-up so he would really pay attention, tell him the letter that I want to write to God, ask his advice--what will he tell me."

*Insert nasty feelings of guilt*

E does not believe we should ever--under any circumstances--ask God for things. He thinks it is not religiously correct. I was already swiminning in religious guilt when I told him before falling asleep at 10pm, "I know that you want to read the Bible together as a family tonight--but my eyes hurt, I'm sleepy, and I need to wake up early in the morning to read classical critical theory."

So anyway, I did not wake E up and I did not mimic Cellie. Instead I watched two dvr recordings of the Nate Berkus show, before watching my favorite insomniac show whose title I can't remember because I'm usually half sleep (ABC 2am-4:30am). In between fast forwarding commercials and watching commercials I spoke to God. Very politely.

I thanked. I expressed gratitude. I aired my desires.

"All I really want," I whispered to the ceiling, "Is some advice--a nod that I'm going down the right path, and perhaps some suggestions and assurance that if I keep up my end of the bargain (working hard) you'll keep me where I need to be (which I know may not be where I want to be.)"

If you haven't guessed yet--I'm still obessesing over graduate school. Not if I want to do it, but if I'm good enough to get in. (I'm insecure and I can admit it.)

In true God style the fan I use to drown out E's snooring kept whirling, and the t.v. show eventually put me to sleep. Soon.

Enter crazy, vivid dream that felt so real it took me 30 minutes to shake out of it's reality when I woke up.

I dreamed me and E went back to the PAL Center in San Berdo where we met and that girl who almost had a chance to date my precious E was still working there (I silently smiled and told myself to remind E that I saved him from her soon as we got into the car.), Dr. Henry offered me a job, Lawrence was being Lawrence, Tammy was being busy Tammy, Jerry was walking quickly from bungalow to bungalow, and everyone was happy that we were still married 13 years later, and of course was pissed we didn't bring the kids. (Where were they at?) They were building a new, bigger Pal Center and the entire orginal office bungalow was being bronzed. Yeap, the whole building.

So there.

I woke up, I read, I ate my toast with mango butter, I told E about the dream, he told me he ran into Lawrence last week, I told him "crazy, ironic--why didn't you tell me," he told me he forgot, the end. Almost.

I went on to call him again and loathe the writing sample I'm thinking about using for my MFA manuscript, then hung up because I needed to "let him do work".

And then it happens. I remember an experimental piece I wrote last summer in a creative writing class at my university. I pull it up, I read it, I re-love it. 

Guess where it is set? The area around the PAL Center. Yes, I smiled a smug smile when I said that out loud as I typed it. 

So now, you are reading my thank-you letter to God. 

I had completely and utterly forgotten about those 14 pages of wonderfulness.

What does this have to do with my big, black, nerdy glasses? The ability to see...duh! See the truth in situations, clear vision, follow me? Let me sleep with my glasses so I can always have clarity in my dreams...hokey I know. But, to a visual artist sight is every-damn-thing. I don't see colors well without my glasses. True story.

What do you know about writing?

Do you know how hard it is to switch from academic writing to creative writing? Do you know how incredible hard it is to have characters show up, trust you, and tell you their stories? Do you know how much of a brain shift you have to do to go from writing critical essays about literature to writing your own literature? Do you realize that I write creatively in southeren dialect (because that's how my characters tend to talk...and hey I'm just the typist) and academically I was accused by my last professor in my Research and Writing class for writing too sophisticated. She actually dared to give me a low A--which I challenged and she changed because she agreed my intended audience needed that sort of language. Do you realize the mental acrobatics and tongue twisting writing I will have to do this year to finish my BA and get my manuscript in order for graduate school?

I know all these things--and hello! that's why I'm obsessed and waking up at 1:30 am acting like Cellie.

But, this is the part in the letter to God when I express gratitude for restoring my belief in my voice and for those gentle gossomer moments, and vivid dreams that allow me to be creative and remember that is the way I'm made.

E is not made like me. I'm not sure if any of the kids have wacky artist tendencies yet, so I am on my own around this house in my skiddish, artist ways. I have artist friends that I are like me. But I also have fellow Type-A personality classmates that are really like me.

I'm an amalgamation, like most people, but I'm just crazy enough to share it. I tell E all the time he doesn't understand what it's like to be an artist-type, because he doesn't. Life is all too easy for him and his type. Numbers are neat...they add, they subtract, they multiply and divide, hell they even do tricks like plathagoream theory stuff and other weird things I learned in AP calculus and physics in '95.

Writing, painting, poetry writing, daydreaming is not neat like the rest of the world.

So before I make a mad dash to University tonight...let me encourage you to do something...

Hug an artist if you know one...especially us word picture artist.

And while your at it, take time to thank God for everything.

Ki

P.s. I have no time for spell, grammar, and punctuation check...so consider me a painter today instead of a self-professed, grammar-loving nerd. Because in all honest...that nerdiness does not come naturally...I actually have to work at all that wonderfulness.

Where I write.

During the past two years I've spent countless hours sitting at the head of my bed--writing. It is where I find my words, where I find peace, and where I can daydream to my heart's content.

Because I spend so much more time in this one tiny space than any other place, I've taken on the task of remodeling it.

All my little tutoring money (okay not all...but most) goes into adding color, rich patterns, and loveliness to this room. Most times it's been books...but lately I've splurged and started updating things. The curtains are a cheap steal from Marshall's, the Pavo quilt I patiently waited (a year) to go on sale at Anthropologie, and the duvet and sheets were steals from Urban Outfitters.

I still have so much I want to do--paint my nightstand something bright and daring, make a tufted headboard, make another wall hanging--but I'm loving looking up from articles, books, and dictionaries and seeing this riot of color around me.

It inspires me...and influences my writing I'm sure.

I would never have thought sleeping on purple sheets and looking out purple curtains would be my thing, but I've found that is the awesome thing about color--when you step out of your comfort zone you find a lot of excitement.

So in the meantime...in between time this is where I am. Writing, researching, reading, and writing. Welcome to my world.

♥ Ki

P.s. all pictures taken w/ my iphone...and manipulated w/apps. Isn't technology wonderful?

 

A pieced and quilted writing life.

            

Sunday morning grocery shopping...I still head out with my favorite grammar book, my favorite new jacket, and a "vintage" quejimenez leather bag. Taken by E with his cool, new iphone 4gs and processed in a couple of apps before finally landing in instagram, my wicked obsession.

"They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom." -Conficious

After careful and long consideration I have decided not to stop blogging, change platforms, or get rid of quejimenez here at typepad. My life has undergone so many changes within the past year and a half, and more particularly during the past ten months, that I have had to take stock of where I am, what I can accomplish, and what I should spend my time trying to accomplish.

One thing kept bringing me back here: This is where it all started. It has been this blog, this ritual of sharing my thoughts, my creativity, my upsets and successes that has directed me down my current path. Although the signs were present throughout my k12 education, I never knew my passion and talent lay in writing, it simply never dawned on me until I started writing here. 

But, I have decided to move in different directions in some ways while also maintaing other aspects of what has come to be known as quejimenez the blog. Most of you who have been a part of my life through online and personal connections already know that I am a full-time Uni student majoring in English. You may even know that I tutor English now. This means virtually no time for crafting, painting, quilting and the likes but more time spent researching, writing, and studying the mechanics of writing and literature. This means less DSLR photography and more time snapping moments on my iphone, ipad, or both. 

This all boils down to one thing, I will now be blogging a lot about writing, grammar, literature, and the stuff that makes us English majors' hearts race. I am that grammar, writing nerd. You know that fleeting feeling of your heart skipping a beat or racing when you realize your falling in love? I get those sort of moments when reading grammar books, stumbling onto great literature, or finding a great critical review while researching.

I know, I know, it's sickening. Who does that? Who falls in love with rhetorical grammar books, and takes copious notes on gerunds? Who else loves punctuation? Anyone? And should I even ask who would like to raise their hands and volunteer to write an essay? 

It's okay. No one has to stand up or raise their hands. (I have a few fellow grammar nerd pals at Uni.) E  informed me last night that he does not care to know about appositives. He said, "not even a little" when I prodded him again and again. It doesn't matter to him that it would improve his writing and help prevent dangling gerunds, he still cares not to know. 

That may sound familiar and normal to you, but to me that sounds like blasphemy of my grammar and writing religion. It offends my grammar and writing sensibilities. 

So here's the deal--my goal is to share my passion, my knowledge, and my experience. Got a question about grammar? Ask me. Need advice on writing a paper? Go ahead ask me. Want to know if you should end a sentence with a preposition? Yeap, ask that too. And by any means if you have a sentence that just doesn't "sound right," I would be offended if you didn't ask me. Sentences are the gardens of thoughts. Were else could we plant beautiful words, raise wonderful ideas, and nurture the thoughts that make us bloom.

            
One of the reasons I love iphoneography...this is a composite of the first picture I took with my first iphone (3g) and a recent (about 2 months old) picture taken with my current iphone (4g) taken through one or two editing apps. These photos are about 3.5 years apart, btw.

With all that grammar stuff said, I do hope and expect to include what few crafty projects I manage, the pictures I take (you are familiar with iphoneography right?), and the creative meals and decorating ideas I come up with between grammar, literature, and word crushes. As much as I love this stuff called English and frequently acquire new word and grammar rule crushes, no one can take English all the time with no colorful, creative breaks. Well, let me just own up to that and say I can't live void of colorful, creative breaks. That is not because my love is not there, but because the heart of me is colorful and creative. (Hince my new obsessions with iphoneography, cross stitching, stlyistically plating the food I cook/bake, and redecorating my humble abode.)

As I get things settled around the blog expect changes to pop up here and there. (You did notice the new blog header, right?) I intend to include some helpful links to websites that encourage good writing skills and that I often refer to when writing (or being a nerd and searching grammr rules for kicks). I'm also planning to update my booklist to include books that I turn to while tutoring, writing, pleasure reading, etc. 

My hope is that through sharing my passion I can help others write better, understand why punctuation and diction matter, and ultimately free those thoughts and ideas growing in your mind's garden waiting to bloom. Writing is complicated, but it is not impossible. I don't know it all, but I do know where to find answers and how to spot problems. In fact, I still have spelling issues of my own; however, I have learned to recognize my mistakes so that I can correct them. Knowledge is power, remember?  

Finally, although the archives are not listed here anymore they are still archived and housed here. So if you had a favorite past post of mines, or wonder if I have any blogging cred (if your new to the world of quejimenez), or are just plain interested in how I got to this point in my life, don't worry it is all still here. I'm working on updating links, etc. It will be listed under the banner in archives and/or "life." 

As always, I welcome your company and look forward to sharing my passion with you all. I hope you'll join me and I can be of some English benefit in your lives.

This is my life--a pieced and quilted writing life.

<3 Ki